10 questions for a conversation for two

Find a time when you can put phones and other tasks aside. You do not have to finish every question in one evening. Choose two or three and listen without rushing. Either person can pass on a question or ask to return to it later.

Use these questions for a voluntary conversation in which both of you feel safe. Either person can skip a question, pause or stop the exercise.

About this week

• What brought you joy this week?
• Which task took the most energy?
• When did you feel supported by me?
• What would you like to say thank you for?

About our agreements

• Which of our agreements is working well?
• What should we revisit in our daily responsibilities?
• What specific help would be useful next week?

About time together

• What simple activity would we enjoy doing together?
• What have we not discussed for a while that we would like to revisit?
• What one action would help us pay more attention to each other?

Finishing the conversation

Briefly describe one of your partner’s answers in your own words and ask whether you understood. Then choose one agreement you are both willing to keep. Name the action, the time and how you will review it. You might agree on one meal without phones and the day it will happen.

These questions are for a private conversation. Avoid treating them as a test of correct answers or publishing your partner’s responses. If you would like support, request a consultation.