Questions before marriage

These questions help you notice subjects worth discussing before marriage. They are not a compatibility test and have no correct answers. Choose a few for one conversation. Listen to each other before looking for an agreement.

Expectations

• Which habits from my family would I like to continue?
• What do attention and support mean to me?
• How would we like to spend time together and separately?

Everyday life

• How will we share household responsibilities?
• Which expenses should we discuss in advance?
• How will we review agreements when schedules or circumstances change?

Faith and people close to us

• What place do faith and church community have in my life?
• How can we discuss different beliefs or habits without pressure?
• Which decisions belong to us as a couple, even when relatives disagree?

Disagreements

• How do I usually respond when I disagree?
• What helps me return to a calm conversation?
• How will we ask for support if we cannot find a solution ourselves?

Note the subjects you would like to revisit. Avoid trying to make your partner give the same answers as you. For a next step, explore preparation for marriage.